How Not to Talk to Your Kids : The Inverse Power of Praise

Should tell your kids they’re smart? Not according to Po Bronson’s recent article in New York Magazine:

…Giving kids the label of “smart” does not prevent them from underperforming. It might actually be causing it.

For the past ten years, psychologist Carol Dweck and her team at Columbia (she’s now at Stanford) studied the effect of praise on students in a dozen New York schools. Her seminal work—a series of experiments on 400 fifth-graders—paints the picture most clearly.

Dweck sent four female research assistants into New York fifth-grade classrooms. The researchers would take a single child out of the classroom for a nonverbal IQ test consisting of a series of puzzles—puzzles easy enough that all the children would do fairly well. Once the child finished the test, the researchers told each student his score, then gave him a single line of praise. Randomly divided into groups, some were praised for their intelligence. They were told, “You must be smart at this.” Other students were praised for their effort: “You must have worked really hard.”

Why just a single line of praise? “We wanted to see how sensitive children were,” Dweck explained. “We had a hunch that one line might be enough to see an effect.”

Then the students were given a choice of test for the second round. One choice was a test that would be more difficult than the first, but the researchers told the kids that they’d learn a lot from attempting the puzzles. The other choice, Dweck’s team explained, was an easy test, just like the first. Of those praised for their effort, 90 percent chose the harder set of puzzles. Of those praised for their intelligence, a majority chose the easy test. The “smart” kids took the cop-out.

Why did this happen? “When we praise children for their intelligence,” Dweck wrote in her study summary, “we tell them that this is the name of the game: Look smart, don’t risk making mistakes.” And that’s what the fifth-graders had done: They’d chosen to look smart and avoid the risk of being embarrassed.

In a subsequent round, none of the fifth-graders had a choice. The test was difficult, designed for kids two years ahead of their grade level. Predictably, everyone failed. But again, the two groups of children, divided at random at the study’s start, responded differently. Those praised for their effort on the first test assumed they simply hadn’t focused hard enough on this test. “They got very involved, willing to try every solution to the puzzles,” Dweck recalled. “Many of them remarked, unprovoked, ‘This is my favorite test.’ ” Not so for those praised for their smarts. They assumed their failure was evidence that they weren’t really smart at all. “Just watching them, you could see the strain. They were sweating and miserable.”

Having artificially induced a round of failure, Dweck’s researchers then gave all the fifth-graders a final round of tests that were engineered to be as easy as the first round. Those who had been praised for their effort significantly improved on their first score—by about 30 percent. Those who’d been told they were smart did worse than they had at the very beginning—by about 20 percent.

So what can you do to foster persistence?

But it turns out that the ability to repeatedly respond to failure by exerting more effort—instead of simply giving up—is a trait well studied in psychology. People with this trait, persistence, rebound well and can sustain their motivation through long periods of delayed gratification. Delving into this research, I learned that persistence turns out to be more than a conscious act of will; it’s also an unconscious response, governed by a circuit in the brain. Dr. Robert Cloninger at Washington University in St. Louis located the circuit in a part of the brain called the orbital and medial prefrontal cortex. It monitors the reward center of the brain, and like a switch, it intervenes when there’s a lack of immediate reward. When it switches on, it’s telling the rest of the brain, “Don’t stop trying. There’s dopa [the brain’s chemical reward for success] on the horizon.” While putting people through MRI scans, Cloninger could see this switch lighting up regularly in some. In others, barely at all.

What makes some people wired to have an active circuit?

Cloninger has trained rats and mice in mazes to have persistence by carefully not rewarding them when they get to the finish. “The key is intermittent reinforcement,” says Cloninger. The brain has to learn that frustrating spells can be worked through. “A person who grows up getting too frequent rewards will not have persistence, because they’ll quit when the rewards disappear.”

Carol Dweck has published a book called Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, and Cloninger has one out called Feeling Good

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GEEK: Thunderbird IMAP slow

I’m using Thunderbird (version 2.0.0.0) on a 2.16 GHz Intel Core 2 Duo (1 GB Ram) running Mac OS X 10.4.9. When I connect to my account at fastmail.fm via IMAP, it frequently takes several minutes for each folder to open, and when I send mail, it often takes several minutes to copy the sent mail to the Sent folder (and sometimes it fails altogether.) Has anyone else experienced this problem? Any suggestions for what I might do to debug it?

[Edit: This has been going on for a couple of weeks, and happened when I was running the previous release of Thunderbird. If I stop and restart Thunderbird, it goes away for a while. ]

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John Stone

John Stone took pictures of himself every day for 479 days from January 6, 2003 until April 28, 2004, then every month on the first of the month to the present. He says that his physique changed solely due to diet and exercise (no steroids). You can watch a video of his transformation here. (2.4 MB Quicktime)

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Before and "8-week” photos of Vincent Regan, one of the actors in the movie “300″

What can 8 weeks of the Gym Jones 300 workout do to a man’s body? This:

Vincent shed about 40 lbs and increased his deadlift from 205 to 355. About half the crew was able to do the following “300″ workout by the end of 4 months of training:

“300”
25x Pull-up +
50x Deadlift @ 135# +
50x Push-up +
50x Box Jump @ 24” box +
50x Floor Wiper @ 135# (one-count) +
50x KB Clean and Press @ 36# (KB must touch floor between reps) +
25x Pull-up
300 reps total

Now to actually do it.

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How many has God killed?

If you summed all the people killed by God (either directly, or at his command) how many people would it be? Steve Wells of Dwindling In Unbelief counted all the deaths for which the bible gives at least an approximate figure. By his count, God has killed 2,270,369 people. Note that this figure only includes deaths for which a number is given in the bible. Deaths for which no number was given, such as from the worldwide flood, are not included.

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Is One Kid Enough?

Is One Kid Enough?
By: Marina Krakovsky

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20050222-000001.html

Conventional wisdom dictates that people become parents because children bring joy. But do they really? For scientists studying the subject, simply correlating parenthood and happiness can't answer this question, since happy people might be more likely to have kids to begin with. But a recent study that compared happiness levels in adult identical twins—some of whom are parents and some who aren't—may be getting to the bottom of the issue.

The study, headed by sociology professor Hans-Peter Kohler of the University of Pennsylvania, found that people with children are, in fact, happier than those without children. But such happiness gains differ for mothers and fathers.

In comparing identical twins, Kohler found that mothers with one child are about 20 percent happier than their childless counterparts; and while fathers' happiness gains are smaller, men enjoy an almost 75 percent larger happiness boost from a firstborn son than from a firstborn daughter. The first child's sex doesn't matter to mothers, perhaps because women are better than men at enjoying the company of both girls and boys, Kohler speculates.

Interestingly, second and third children don't add to parents' happiness at all. In fact, these additional children seem to make mothers less happy than mothers with only one child—though still happier than women with no children.

“If you want to maximize your subjective well-being, you should stop at one child,” concludes Kohler, adding that people probably have additional children either for the benefit of the firstborn or because they reason that if the first child made them happy, the second one will, too.

I'm surprised that a firstborn son makes the father so much happier than a firstborn daughter. Personally, if I ever have a child, I would prefer to have a daughter.

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Listen to Neil Gaiman read his short story How To Talk To Girls At Parties.

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